Friday, March 6, 2009

Ok . . . a little about me, maybe considered venting...wait let me get my soapbox. I wish we could wear our values on our sleeves. One that I would wear is, "Values Kept Promises." If I make plans or tell someone that I'm going to do something or be somewhere, I plan to follow through with it. I grow tired of folding or flaking becoming "the norm." I value my time and I value other peoples' time.

Last week I was given the invitation to a movie. It just so happened that I had the evening free (the first time since January). I was looking forward to getting out and enjoying some time with friends, away from my busy schedule. When I called to finalize the plans for the evening, my two calls and texts went unanswered. I waited about four hours and still no response. Urgently, I called my friends to fill the extracurricualr time void. Luckily, one of my friends did not have any plans, so I secured some time. (To this day, I never heard back from this person).

This says two things to me...1) "I don't think you're time is important." 2) "I don't think you're important for an apology." Excuse my french, but these two slaps in the face pisses me off. I graciously accepted an invitation and made time for someone, and this is the thank you I receive. If this happened once, I would chaulk this speach up to an over-reaction. But it is not the case. Time after time my plans are discarded as nothing more than an inconvenience. I am becoming annoyed with the non-shalaunt [spelling??] attitude and trend of flaking. Making a promise is the same as attaching a personal stamp-of-approval or signature on something, which should be followed through. Especially upon seeing that person again. Grow some, and apologize. Flaking says so much about someone (more than they know or can comprehend).

This brings to question what do values mean? They are something that someone holds close to his/her heart. I understand that I cannot "force" my values on someone else. All I can do is stick to mine. When someone doesn't uphold similar values, I accept that. But when someone's values aren't respected, it's not respecting that person; and that's ultimately what I have a problem with. So, let me put this as ""socially acceptable"" as I can..."It's not the other person's problem that you're having a problem with that person's value differences." Which is nothing but a big pile.

I know that I am preaching to the choir, and that this isn't news to any of you; but it is something that I wish I can tell people about me, right-off-the-bat. My mood for this week, if you haven't guessed, is "Disappointed With People;" because it's becoming absolutely rare to find people who follow through. I guess this would be a good time to tell Joe that I'm sorry about not showing up for rock climbing in Yosemite 5 months ago. (Satire in italics)

2 comments:

lilscrubby said...

i'm listening! and i hear you! miss ya!

Chris Olds said...

Thanks for listening, hearing, and missing, but as the worm in Alice and Wonderland would ask, "who...are...you...?"